Tamed by an influx of women

Perusing through some of my bookmarks in Steven Pinker’s The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined, I was reminded of the following passage. It’s worth sharing.

The West was eventually tamed not just by flinty-eyed marshals and hanging judges but by an influx of women. The Hollywood westerns’ “prim pretty schoolteacher[s] arriving in Roaring Gulch” captures a historical reality. Nature abhors a lopsided sex ratio, and women in eastern cities and farms eventually flowed westward along the sexual concentration gradient. Widows, spinsters, and young single women sought their fortunes in the marriage market, encouraged by the lonely men themselves and by municipal and commercial officials who became increasingly exasperated by the degeneracy of their western hellholes. As the women arrived, they used their bargaining position to transform the West into an environment better suited to their interests. They insisted that the men abandon their brawling and boozing for marriage and family life, encouraged the building of schools and churches, and shut down saloons, brothels, gambling dens, and other rivals for the men’s attention. Churches, with their coed membership, Sunday morning discipline, and glorification of norms on temperance, added institutional muscle to the women’s civilizing offensive. Today we guffaw at the Women’s Christian Temperance Union (with its ax-wielding tavern terrorist Carrie Nation) and at the Salvation Army, whose anthem, according to the satire, includes the lines “We never eat cookies ‘cause cookies have yeast / And one little bite turns a man to a beast.” But the early feminists of the temperance movement were responding to the very real catastrophe of alcohol-fueled bloodbaths in male-dominated enclaves.

The idea that young men are civilized by women and marriage may seem as corny as Kansas in August, but it has become a commonplace of modern criminology. A famous study that tracked a thousand low-income Boston teenagers for forty-five years discovered that two factors predicted whether a delinquent would go on to avoid a life of crime: getting a stable job, and marrying a woman he cared about and supporting her and her children. The effect of marriage was substantial: three-quarters of the bachelors, but only a third of the husbands, went on to commit more crimes. This difference alone cannot tell us whether marriage keeps men away from crime or career criminals are less likely to get married, but the sociologists Robert Sampson, John Laub, and Christopher Wimer have shown that marriage really does seem to be a pacifying cause. When they held constant all the factors that typically push men into marriage, they found that actually getting married made a man less likely to commit crimes immediately thereafter. The causal pathway has been pithily explained by Johnny Cash: Because you’re mine, I walk the line.

An appreciation of the Civilizing Process in the American West and rural South helps to make sense of the American political landscape today. Many northern and coastal intellectuals are puzzled by the culture of their red state compatriots, with their embrace of guns, capital punishment, small government, evangelical Christianity, “family values,” and sexual propriety. Their opposite numbers are just as baffled by the blue staters’ timidity toward criminals and foreign enemies, their trust in government, their intellectualized secularism, and their tolerance of licentiousness. This so-called culture war, I suspect, is the product of a history in which white America took two different paths to civilization. The North is an extension of Europe and continued the court- and commerce-driven Civilizing Process that had been gathering momentum since the Middle Ages. The South and West preserved the culture of honor that sprang up in the anarchic parts of the growing country, balanced by their own civilizing forces of churches, families, and temperance.

5 comments

  1. This is wonderful Jason. Thanks for sharing. As often as I have read Better Angels, I don’t recall that passage..

    Surprising because I have spent 40+ years trying to unravel the route from the feminine and masculine of human sex to the ‘civilization’ that we are now … and much of that story remains untold because it goes through the feminine and its empathy.

    We are only getting ready now — millennia into the experiment — with the advent of feminist scholarship to really explore, understand and tell that tale. Pinker did his bit by including ‘feminization’ in his short list of 5 factors that helped us tame ourselves. Although I seem to recall somewhere that he admitted that it was his partner that convinced or encouraged him or provided the enlightenment that convinced him to do it. (Reminds me of the story of Carl Sagan and the Pioneer 10 plaque with all its astronomical signs and symbols. It was his partner at the time (and the artist/designer of the plaque) who convinced him to put the ♂ and ♀ figures on it.)
    The wonders of the feminine — and now, recently, amazingly available to both human sexes.

    My latest but still preliminary attempt at getting all this down is Curating Sex, Briefly, a Kindle Select book at Amazon. See here: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=curating+sex%2C+briefly

    Best to all,

    L.

  2. The idea that young men are civilized by women and marriage may seem as corny as Kansas in August, but it has become a commonplace of modern criminology. A famous study that tracked a thousand low-income Boston teenagers for forty-five years discovered that two factors predicted whether a delinquent would go on to avoid a life of crime: getting a stable job, and marrying a woman he cared about and supporting her and her children.

    Which way does the causal arrow go? What differentiates the poor Joes who got jobs and settled down from the ones who didn’t (the answer is 3 letters long 😉 ).

    As the women arrived, they used their bargaining position to transform the West into an environment better suited to their interests. They insisted that the men abandon their brawling and boozing for marriage and family life, encouraged the building of schools and churches, and shut down saloons, brothels, gambling dens, and other rivals for the men’s attention.

    More likely, as women arrived, so did more “civilized” men who now found the Far West more hospitable.

    Indeed, today, the Far West is a bastion of individualism and home of the independent woman, despite its general conservatism. See also:

    More Maps of the American Nations | JayMan’s Blog

  3. the most violent neighborhoods are the ones where single motherhood is most prevalent. if women were a calming effect on men you wouldnt expect the highest rates of violence to be in what is essentially a matriarchal home.

    I don’t think women are calming, I think they are actually less stable. I think this plays into why neighborhoods without father are very violent. single father homes, on the other hand, tend to produce kids that are far more emotionally stable. I know there are other factors at play but my hunch is that men with their rational and caring qualities displayed towards loved ones is a more calming effect.

    1. Probably little to no effect, either way (especially not from a parenting perspective). But, this:

      if women were a calming effect on men you wouldnt expect the highest rates of violence to be in what is essentially a matriarchal home.

      …is hard to argue with.

  4. also, read up on the women who protested coffee shops because they were upset how well the men were getting along in a highly intellectual/sophisticated way, without the presence of women. the women called those men “frenchified” and even attacked their masculinity…

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